Feminists United (FB page I highly recommend. I am on there a lot debating, and they’ve published a few of my articles) posted an article that immediately grabbed my attention. The article was posted by a Tumblr user on her account recounting the events of her night on a train. Now, I will not give away the details as I feel it takes away from the power of the story. I just highly suggest your read the article (here) before continuing on.
Below are my comments, and any responses directed at me solely. You can view the entire conversation (here) for yourself if you wish. I’m posting this because I want to know your opinions! 🙂
My Initial Response: I visited her Tumblr, and people are actually telling her that she overreacted. I’m sorry, but some man angrily threatening your life, and demanding you preform sexual acts on him is not just a ‘jerk’ who had a bad day. This guy seems mentally disturbed. I see this man escalating, as he’s obviously mentally/emotionally immature with severe anger issues. I feel for this girl. I really do. I just wish society would stop the victim blaming bullshit. It’s her fault she’s pretty. It’s her fault for talking back. It’s her fault for being “rude.” I mean, when do we as a society stand up and say “No, it is his fault for sexually harassing, threatening, and verbally abusing this poor girl!”
My Second Response: Am I the only person who gets frustrated when they see people making suggestions on how to avoid this sort of behavior from people? I mean, putting in earbuds and laying items on your seat are helpful, yes. But, shouldn’t the focus be on retraining the mind so society doesn’t perceive this as a woman’s responsibility? I just feel that comments like that put the focus back on the woman, and victim blaming.
Lindsay, a Direct Response To Me: Tina, I agree with you. It is so frustrating to see the “I’m sorry this happened to you, but if you had been doing ____________ instead, it wouldn’t” and blah blah blah.
My Final Response Right Now: Thank You, Lindsay. I’m glad I’m not the only one. I think that no matter how a woman reacts or tries to be proactive, these things will happen because some men are animals. The proper reaction, I think, is to bring attention to these incidents via the media and make it known that such behavior is not acceptable. I know that it is my job as a future mother to teach my daughter to be strong, but my son to be respectful. I think that’s the only proactive measure a woman should have to take.